tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3453225790730931112.post5737640133311083299..comments2023-10-28T06:54:35.156-04:00Comments on Change Happens: ContemplationUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3453225790730931112.post-4814965281482997322014-06-23T22:37:21.708-04:002014-06-23T22:37:21.708-04:00Love you too Pat. I know you had it much worse. ...Love you too Pat. I know you had it much worse. So glad we have each other.VVhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08751403913379728345noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3453225790730931112.post-30494241922096142812014-06-23T15:55:52.762-04:002014-06-23T15:55:52.762-04:00k, I'm sorry that she treated you that way, al...k, I'm sorry that she treated you that way, always thought it was reserved for me, and I seem to always be a people pleaser regardless of what offences has been inflected upon me. However I do see it sightly differently, in that do beleive that there is mental illiness involved, and has always been there. You need to do whats right for you. My friend Linda and I were talking about my upbringing this past weekend, its a surprise that I function at all sometimes. However go out of my way not to treat my daughter in the same way, although she seems to have some of the same disfunctions. Occasionally my husband reminds me if am getting close to even sounding like (MOM)<br />Just so you know I love ya.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3453225790730931112.post-56561966832407552752014-06-22T16:20:29.995-04:002014-06-22T16:20:29.995-04:00Thanks Larena. I keep thinking / hoping that one ...Thanks Larena. I keep thinking / hoping that one day basic human decency will be a part of my family, I'm so tired of waiting, getting my hopes up only to be caught in one of their webs yet again.VVhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08751403913379728345noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3453225790730931112.post-46768183931618527682014-06-22T10:47:05.895-04:002014-06-22T10:47:05.895-04:00I am so sorry. I know what you mean tho , for some...I am so sorry. I know what you mean tho , for some reason the older Mom gets the meaner she becomes and K, I am done. for 50 years my oldest brother abused me in one way or another and thank the powers that be I gave the sucker up !! he can go on being a big meany and I do not have to put myself in his way. some what the same as Mom.... so sorry. but you have to stay true to you, my hope is to teach them from my doing it right?Larenahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03881524332215940946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3453225790730931112.post-82000976712227750332014-06-20T07:33:17.919-04:002014-06-20T07:33:17.919-04:00Thank you Naomi. It's hard to know what to do...Thank you Naomi. It's hard to know what to do. I don't hate her or have any ill will toward her, I'm just disappointed that she chooses this life, chooses to be angry and unhappy. VVhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08751403913379728345noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3453225790730931112.post-48806779510677955092014-06-20T03:14:40.840-04:002014-06-20T03:14:40.840-04:00For whatever it is worth, I think you did everythi...For whatever it is worth, I think you did everything you could to wish her The Best on her Birthday, and you saw, once again, she reworks it all in her head and makes you the Bad Guy! I understand that feeling of "I'm Done". There is nothing you can do to make her be someone she is not and unless you enjoy more abuse from her, which obviously you don't---- you made the gesture of love towards her with a card and a call. I hope you feel good about your decision.....You are the bigger person. Brava To You, My Dear!!!! <br /><br />What is sad is, that she is such an angry hateful unhappy person. THAT is very very sad, and hurtful all around, too.<br /><br />You have made a wonderful life for yourself, filled with love and positive energy all around you. A Miracle, given who your mother is.<br />And you have nothing to feel guilty about or regretful about in your behavior towards her.....Just my opinion, my dearOldLady Of The Hillshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02458879772193114892noreply@blogger.com